Embrace Uncertainty and You Create Adventure
Dear Friend,
Uncertainty is the key to adventure.
One of the first steps to starting down the road to a creative family lifestyle is to prepare yourself for uncertainty.
If you are the kind of person who needs a lot of predictability in your life in order to sleep well, then this path may not be for you.
First, deciding to change your lifestyle pushes you out of your comfort zone and replaces that sense of dull peace with a sense of excited fear. But it’s a “good” fear. And you can convert that little fear into positive energy as you follow up your decision with tangible action.
This is the process of converting uncertainty and fear, defensive emotions, into excitement and adventure, offensive emotions. This is also the process of seizing control of your life.
When you live in fear, you feel powerless. When you live in excitement, you are empowered.
So the process of embracing uncertainty, though it sounds discomforting and potentially dangerous, actually makes you feel more powerful, and ultimately, more at peace with your life.
It’s counter-intuitive, but there it is.
Can you embrace uncertainty? Can your partner? How about your kids?
Your Kids
From my experience, you won’t need to worry about your kids. Unless they struggle with a condition such as Aspergers Syndrome*, they will see change as adventure.
In fact, the way that a typical child accepts change is directly related to how their parents deal with it.
When something new or unexpected happens, the very first thing a child will do is look over at you. What is your reaction?
Remember, like it or not, you are your childrens’ rock. You take it in stride, and they will too. You panic, and so will they. If you handle this part well, your biggest problem will probably be keeping up with your kids, because kids are often fearless adventurers.
Your Partner
Is your partner ready for uncertainty? Are they a roll-with-the-punches type, or do they prefer a more settled, concrete existence?
Our world needs both kinds of people. But if you intend to go forward with the process of Creative Family Lifestyle Design, you will likely be turning your existing family “lifestyle” on its head. And this makes some folks very uncomfortable.
If this is all your idea, then you will understand the process more. But to your spouse, this may just look like some hair-brained scheme of yours, and they may see themselves as just putting up with it until you move on to something else.
But you aren’t going to move on, are you? Once you get the Creative Family Lifestyle Design bug, it never lets you go. So what do you do?
You need to get your partner on-board.
I’m not saying that you have to sell him or her completely on your ideas. But you do need to provide them with enough information, in as simplified a form as possible, so that they understand exactly what you are trying to accomplish.
Your partner needs to feel empowered by this process, too. Otherwise, you will just spin your wheels.
Trust me.
You
So, are you ready to take this on? Are you ready to feel powerful and in control of your life?
Stick with me, and we’ll do this together.
Thanks and all the best,
Hugh
