Comments on: The 7th Secret to Living the Good Life http://thepassionatewarrior.com/2010/02/08/the-7th-secret-to-living-the-good-life/ Inspiring Ordinary Families To Live Extraordinary Lives Thu, 29 Jul 2010 19:32:32 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Hugh DeBurgh http://thepassionatewarrior.com/2010/02/08/the-7th-secret-to-living-the-good-life/comment-page-1/#comment-116 Hugh DeBurgh Thu, 11 Feb 2010 16:08:11 +0000 http://thepassionatewarrior.com/?p=892#comment-116 Hey Catrien - Your blog post is beautiful! (See my comment on your site). Negative self judgment creates a negative energy that pervades everything around us. And so does positive self-acceptance. It all goes back to judgment. Our failure to embrace and love ourselves is the result of learned judgment. This is a cultural problem. Even, it seems, a species-wide problem. And clearly one that is worth spotlighting for a wide audience. We all want to be happy. Perhaps our very first step is to just stop judging! Thank you so much for your great comment! All the best, Hugh Hey Catrien -

Your blog post is beautiful! (See my comment on your site).

Negative self judgment creates a negative energy that pervades everything around us. And so does positive self-acceptance.

It all goes back to judgment. Our failure to embrace and love ourselves is the result of learned judgment.

This is a cultural problem. Even, it seems, a species-wide problem. And clearly one that is worth spotlighting for a wide audience. We all want to be happy. Perhaps our very first step is to just stop judging!

Thank you so much for your great comment!

All the best,

Hugh

]]> By: Hugh DeBurgh http://thepassionatewarrior.com/2010/02/08/the-7th-secret-to-living-the-good-life/comment-page-1/#comment-115 Hugh DeBurgh Thu, 11 Feb 2010 16:02:10 +0000 http://thepassionatewarrior.com/?p=892#comment-115 Krisy - Thank you so much for your touching and intimate portrait of life as you have experienced it. First, I love your mom's technique! I am going to steal it, if that's OK! ;-) As I say in the post, we Learn that we are different, and the world implies (or simply says) that our difference is bad. Your mom did you a great service. You trusted her opinion, and her opinion was focused on one thing - your happiness. Not everyone is so lucky. There is a lot of discussion these days about the need for kids to have high self-esteem. I think that is true. But I suspect that many adults are clueless as to how to encourage it. When we as adults celebrate differences, instead of condemn them, or single them out as unfortunate deviations from the norm, then I suspect a great deal of poor childhood self-esteem will just melt away. Thanks again! Hugh Krisy -

Thank you so much for your touching and intimate portrait of life as you have experienced it.

First, I love your mom’s technique! I am going to steal it, if that’s OK! ;-)

As I say in the post, we Learn that we are different, and the world implies (or simply says) that our difference is bad.

Your mom did you a great service. You trusted her opinion, and her opinion was focused on one thing – your happiness. Not everyone is so lucky.

There is a lot of discussion these days about the need for kids to have high self-esteem. I think that is true. But I suspect that many adults are clueless as to how to encourage it.

When we as adults celebrate differences, instead of condemn them, or single them out as unfortunate deviations from the norm, then I suspect a great deal of poor childhood self-esteem will just melt away.

Thanks again!

Hugh

]]> By: Catrien Ross http://thepassionatewarrior.com/2010/02/08/the-7th-secret-to-living-the-good-life/comment-page-1/#comment-114 Catrien Ross Thu, 11 Feb 2010 03:30:26 +0000 http://thepassionatewarrior.com/?p=892#comment-114 Hugh, hello again from the foot of Mount Fuji. This is such a wonderful post, filled with inspirational insights. Thank you. I especially loved your words, "coming to terms with you," "the joy is in the process," and "those oddities and undesirable characteristics are what diverge you from the average." The first two months of this year have been challenging for many people around me here in Japan (and for me, too). How much of the trouble stems from the basic attitude of not truly liking yourself? Thank you so much for sharing your gift of perspective. I would like to add that negative self-judgment leads to responding negatively to people and the world around you. Please allow me to share my latest blog post on this point at http://www.energydoorways.com/blog/natural-energy-wisdom/catrien-ross-on-how-judging-your-day-creates-your-experience-tao-insights-from-mount-fuji/ Hugh, hello again from the foot of Mount Fuji. This is such a wonderful post, filled with inspirational insights. Thank you. I especially loved your words, “coming to terms with you,” “the joy is in the process,” and “those oddities and undesirable characteristics are what diverge you from the average.” The first two months of this year have been challenging for many people around me here in Japan (and for me, too). How much of the trouble stems from the basic attitude of not truly liking yourself? Thank you so much for sharing your gift of perspective. I would like to add that negative self-judgment leads to responding negatively to people and the world around you. Please allow me to share my latest blog post on this point at http://www.energydoorways.com/blog/natural-energy-wisdom/catrien-ross-on-how-judging-your-day-creates-your-experience-tao-insights-from-mount-fuji/

]]> By: Krisy http://thepassionatewarrior.com/2010/02/08/the-7th-secret-to-living-the-good-life/comment-page-1/#comment-113 Krisy Thu, 11 Feb 2010 02:31:48 +0000 http://thepassionatewarrior.com/?p=892#comment-113 Hugh, your honesty, conviction, and sincerity resonate in this post. Self love is something that I am familar with or shall I say we've had a torrid love affair. I was born w/o a right hand and my childhood, although fun, my relationhship with self love was challenging. I was given a bold, vivacious personality so it overshadowed my hand for the most art. I was a collegiate athlete, and was succesful at anything I did, but I did not feel that 'joy' within--deep in my core & fabric of my soul. I can honestly say that once I embraced my difference as part of me and the beauty w/in, I began to understand what true happiness was or what it feels like. It is a feeling that brings peace, tranquility, and bliss. It's awesome. I grew up w/ 3 sisters so there were 4 girls. Imagine the teenage years w/ 4 girls. It was tough and often self love was not the at the forefront of our minds. When we said anything negative about our looks, my mom made us stand in front of the mirror and tell ourselves "(state our name), you are beautiful. I love you." I think about that today and am thankful. Yes, I'm 33 and have sat through years on a therapists couch, read most self help books, and every book that Oprah recommends in my quest to lead a more fulfilling life, my journey to find the meaning of happiness, and my desire to suck the marrow our of life. I like me. No, I love me. I am happy w/ me my imperfections, quarkiness, and oddities. You see my uniqueness is what defines me from you. Hugh, your honesty, conviction, and sincerity resonate in this post. Self love is something that I am familar with or shall I say we’ve had a torrid love affair. I was born w/o a right hand and my childhood, although fun, my relationhship with self love was challenging. I was given a bold, vivacious personality so it overshadowed my hand for the most art. I was a collegiate athlete, and was succesful at anything I did, but I did not feel that ‘joy’ within–deep in my core & fabric of my soul. I can honestly say that once I embraced my difference as part of me and the beauty w/in, I began to understand what true happiness was or what it feels like. It is a feeling that brings peace, tranquility, and bliss. It’s awesome. I grew up w/ 3 sisters so there were 4 girls. Imagine the teenage years w/ 4 girls. It was tough and often self love was not the at the forefront of our minds. When we said anything negative about our looks, my mom made us stand in front of the mirror and tell ourselves “(state our name), you are beautiful. I love you.” I think about that today and am thankful. Yes, I’m 33 and have sat through years on a therapists couch, read most self help books, and every book that Oprah recommends in my quest to lead a more fulfilling life, my journey to find the meaning of happiness, and my desire to suck the marrow our of life. I like me. No, I love me. I am happy w/ me my imperfections, quarkiness, and oddities. You see my uniqueness is what defines me from you.

]]> By: Hugh DeBurgh http://thepassionatewarrior.com/2010/02/08/the-7th-secret-to-living-the-good-life/comment-page-1/#comment-112 Hugh DeBurgh Tue, 09 Feb 2010 15:06:25 +0000 http://thepassionatewarrior.com/?p=892#comment-112 Thanks, Bruce! I am glad to hear that they helped! All the best, Hugh Thanks, Bruce! I am glad to hear that they helped!
All the best, Hugh

]]> By: BNelson http://thepassionatewarrior.com/2010/02/08/the-7th-secret-to-living-the-good-life/comment-page-1/#comment-111 BNelson Tue, 09 Feb 2010 14:28:55 +0000 http://thepassionatewarrior.com/?p=892#comment-111 Nice post as always Hugh. Thanks for the inspiration! The "7 secrets" have helped me re-focus and chart the course for real change. Keep 'em coming! - Bruce Nice post as always Hugh. Thanks for the inspiration! The “7 secrets” have helped me re-focus and chart the course for real change. Keep ‘em coming! – Bruce

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