Dear Friend,
Have you ever found yourself using the phrase, “before kids…” when describing your life to another. Have you noticed that most people divide their adult life into two halves. The first is “before kids,” and the second is “after kids.”
Before kids (BK) you lived your life, your way. You did not compromise. You didn’t have to. But now, after kids (AK), you do. Or rather, you don’t do, anything as you did before.
Have you ever dared to really ask yourself, “Why?” I mean, why do you have to cease being you, a unique human being, living your life in your own unique way? The answer is obvious, of course. It’s the kids, dummy. They are why.
My mission is to show you, through taught techniques and real life examples, that you, an ordinary person or couple, can have children and still keep living your own unique lifestyle. And you can do this without being extreme or weird. You just have to be creative and open minded. You also must unlearn a great many stereotypes and downright falsehoods that have been spread through the years about what it takes to be a great parent.
The truth is that we have all been sold a bill of goods. We have been taught that, once we have a child, all fun must stop (except fun that we sneak). One parent must get to work and slave to support your new bundle of joy. The other must start baking cookies and transform her ideal body image from that of a sultry sexpot (BK) to that of Aunt Bee (AK).
Now, if your BK life involved nightly drug orgies or otherwise involved a great deal of dangerous activities inappropriate for the safety or health of children, then you will have to make adjustments. I think just about everyone understands this. However, where is it written that you must disappear into a cubicle or into desperate housewife hell just because you fell in love and had a child?
This is the line that I draw in the sand. It is the line that you must cross if you want to live a more fulfilling life than the dreary lifestyle doled out to you by traditional society. It is now that you must take positive action and be willing to think outside of the traditional family lifesyle “box.”
If being the authentic you requires that you make a marked departure from the lifestyle that you adopted AK, or whenever, then it’s time that you found out how to get your life back on track. I plan to show you how to take your life back.
I hope that you’ll stick around, as my family and yours discover together all of the unique ways that we can experience and share our lives together. As families. Outside of the box.
All the best,
Hugh
